Well, partner and I had a talk this morning. Answers, yes. Resolutions, possibly. Agreed in love, definitely.
House renovation - pipe dream for me, borrowing money and paying interest for her
Towels - replacing old and white towels with color and new for me, use it till its worn out for her
Clutter - overwhelming for both of us (except that corner of my office), resolve to get rid of stuff and rearrange what's there - also both resolve to keep clutter down in bedrooms to alleviate anxiety, labeled specific areas that bother us
Money - house renovation may be possible with use of current funds, home equity loan and other resources - looking at reasonableness of that and recovery of investment when sold when we're too old to live here
Money - resolve to go thrift shopping but if I buy "stuff" to get rid of equal amount of "stuff"
Money - both have similar goals now and agreed on plan for spending, saving, etc. (I think)
Isolating - I do it, I like it, it's okay with her. She doesn't, she likes it, it's okay with me.
Finding other interests - still in quandary - tend to adopt folks who drain my energy, emotions and other resources - helping those in need still main interest but scared of getting too involved - so am staying away.
Will explore possibilities for art classes at local art store and community college - need inspiration as much as classes.
Jewelry - need inspiration and something to do with finished product - not good in sales area - isolating so don't really want to get out and find somebody to sell it.
Agreed to discuss thoughts and feelings more often to avoid misunderstanding. Also talked about my need to analyze "how did you get there?" and her (and sometimes my) inability to figure that out...but okay to ask the question.
Hey, I think we did well on this round of relationship work. Yea! Us!